As humans, we look at each other and make instant judgements. His hair is too long. She's too fat. He has one eyebrow. She dresses funny. Her voice grates. He never looks at me when he speaks. She is cute. He is unnecessarily angry. She's annoyingly chipper. Kiss ass. They are all bad people.
These judgements are made instantaneously. Deep down we know we are often wrong about the person within that we judge from without. Or do we? We seem to do it anyway.
The same is true of situations. He reacted badly to that. She said WHAT? I can't believe he didn't speak up in that meeting. She cried for no reason. He lied without cause. They are all bad people.
These judgements are made with a little more thought. Or are they? Deep down we know we our judgements are often wrong. Or do we? We seem to keep making them.
There is a thing that happens. That thing is. It IS. Everything we attach to it, is us. If it hurts us, it is us. If it makes us smile, it is us. If it destroys us, it is us. If it emboldens us, it is us. The event is the same. It is the meaning we attach to it. Our self-imposed meanings hurt us. We hurt ourselves. I know that. Or do I? I seem to make the same judgements.
Please watch this video. Look even at the hard part where this women is being looked down upon for her looks and her stage in life. It embarrassed me the first time I saw it. Watch the whole thing. If it doesn't bring a tear to your eye, you may not be human.
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Now notice the comments. Imagine if this was a potential friend you turned your back on. Imagine if this was situation you saw as ugly and missed the beauty within. Just imagine what a life we'd live without self-imposed judgements, self-imposed meanings, self-imposed pain. It simply brings a tear to your eye.
Those who know the hard-edged Frater POS, may be shocked to learn I've watched that about ten times. It blows me away. Live the dream and maybe, just maybe, we'll learn to live in what IS. Without the judgements. Without, the self-imposed pain.