Part of the issue is a string of pre-programmed reactionary thoughts.
- It is my belief that a fundamental Christian belief is that there is only one way to "God". This may or may not be true. However, those that have tried to convert me have made this claim. I have even been hit with this claim by people that told me they don't believe this. I seriously doubt the theory that most Christians do not believe this but I could be wrong.
- Therefor, I conclude they have an issue with my spiritual point of view and judge it inferior, void, bankrupt etc. This is likely true for some and not others.
- The only reason to convert me is because they believe item 2 is true. This is likely false. Though, I find it hard to believe that anyone would spend time trying convert me from my spiritual path if they did not believe one and two are true.
The Truth is Oft Hidden in a Lie
One of my EARLY lessons on personal alchemy fell along these same lines. Note of caution, this will offended many many of you but I do not currently believe this. I am speaking of my PAST.
In my youth, when I asked a woman out and she didn't want to go, I almost never received a no thank you. Instead, I received excuses. "Oh, I have plans that night." etc. I'd ask again and get another plausible excuse. The third time I'd figure out she she was really saying no. I viewed these excuses as lies. Which is a correct assessment, unless other plans were in fact made but often enough there were no other plans. Calling them lies is correct. However, I attached the thought that they were lying to me out of disrespect, meanness etc. This was incorrect.
The truth was they had their own concerns. They lied to me as they thought this would spare my feelings. This logic I never understood as I'm sure they figured my feelings would be hurt when I eventually figured out they didn't want to go out with me. Color me confused (then). Once or twice I got a "No, I am not interested." Which resulted in no anger or angst on my part.
My point is the truth was hidden in lie. They lied to me (true) but the conclusions I drew that their lies were disrespectful to me was the real lie. Realizing that my self-lie was indeed a lie which hid a truth (their compassionate intent) was a real eye opener. Who can argue with compassion?
NOTE: Here I use the word lie with artistic license. I do not believe words that you believe to be true when uttered are lies. They are errors. They only become lies when you can't admit your errors and stick to your errant guns.
Using that Model I can now rework the orginal three thoughts:
- It is my belief that a fundamental Christian belief is that there is only one way to "God". This may or may not be true. (I will hang on to this one until proven wrong.)
- Therefor, I conclude they have an issue with my spiritual point of view and judge it inferior, void, bankrupt etc. This is likely true for some and not others. (Revised, they have no clue about my spiritual life, this is in their head for their reasons that have nothing to do with me or my beliefs/traditions etc.)
- The only reason to convert me is because they believe item 2 is true. (Revised: I have no idea why they are trying to convert me. I am still not interested in an "only one way philosophy" and much of the rest of their faith but I can't project reasons into their heads.)
Naming a Thing is Important
One of the steps in taking on personal alchemical issues is understanding the real issue. In the example from my past, the real issue wasn't the excuses of lies, nor was it being turned down. The real issue was my projection of their intent behind the lie. Once named, that specific concern went away almost immediately.
This evangelizing issue is obviously a variation of the dating issue. It is the same thing, projection of intent. However, I like poison logic better as a name as I fool myself with poisoned emotional logic. Regardless, when you do this kind of work and succeed, the Universe will give you a bit of a break as a way of saying congratulations. Over time, sometimes quickly sometimes not, it will present another version of the same lesson. Eventually, if you pass enough tests, the issue fades and does not return. Obviously, I didn't learn the first time, so here we go again.
The Work may be Great but no one said it was pretty.
In response to a few comments to yesterday:
I do feel that comparing my unwillingness to convince others of their need to deal with HD or GD is directly comparable to the idea of Christian evangelism. Comparing someone trying to get you to change religions to someone being excited about a new retail establishment is certainly a different level and, to me, comparing apples to oranges. We will have to agree to disagree on that one.
To those that said I have issues. Yes, I know. That is why I posted. That is one of the reasons I write this blog. My intent was/is to share how one person does the work for those that do not have the good fortune of having a mentor. I share my trials so other people can succeed in theirs.
And before you say it, that is not evangelism to me. I am not trying to get people to do the work. I am merely provide an example of method to those on or nearing the path. Fine line? Okay, I will buy that.
Lastly, I haven't read and likely will not read other blogs on this topic. All they will do is get me worked up and not help me solve my issue. Call me selfish.